Does Your Outsourcing Vendor Just Give Up?
Do you ever feel like your offshore programming team just gave up? Have they stopped asking questions or don’t have answers to yours? The problem may not be laziness but cultural.
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Over the weekend I finished reading the hugely popular novel The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini. It is a story about several boys growing up in Afghanistan before the Russian invasion, how one named Amir comes to the U.S. during the war and then returns during the rule of the Taliban. |
At one point near the end of the story Amir consults an attorney named Omar Faisal in Pakistan about adopting an Afghani child and returning him to the U.S. Omar had spent a considerable amount of time in both Kabul and the U.S. and was raised in Berkeley. He explained several times that it was extremely difficult to adopt a child and bring him to the U.S. without any paperwork when dealing with the INS.
Here is a very small part of the story:
“You’re telling me to give it up?” Amir asked, pressing his palm to his forehead.
“I grew up in the U.S., Amir. If America taught me anything, it’s that quitting is right up there with pissing in the Girl Scouts’ lemonade jar.”
That really struck me. Americans just don’t quit! It’s interesting to hear how Americans are perceived in other cultures.
It also reminded me of a personal incident while working with an Indian engineer at one of my startups about 15 years ago. It was late at night and we had to configure a couple of computers for a big demo the next day. I asked the Indian engineer to move a disk drive from one computer to another.
There was some problem like a missing driver or a wrong cable – something that was challenging but certainly could be fixed. But an hour later I found the Indian engineer working on some other small task. “What about the disk drive?” I asked.
“Oh, I couldn’t get it to work.” He said it with no shame or concern. I was shocked!
“So what did you do – just give up?” I was mystified by his lack of urgency.
After all, we couldn’t tell the prospective customer, “Sorry. We had this really cool demo lined up for you, but we couldn’t find a cable.”
Since then that engineer has become a U.S. citizen and settled in San Francisco with his wife and two daughters. His career has advanced quickly and he now works for a major strategy consulting firm in the U.S. We are still great friends and were recently reminiscing about the old days. “Do you remember the time you asked me if I ‘just gave up’ when were hooking up those computers? That really made an impression on me.”
I don’t think my friend would have ever peed in a lemonade jar, but he certainly learned how Americans feel about giving up on a major task that night before the demo so long ago. You may need to gently teach your offshore team the same lesson to get the results you expect.


















